Solo Date Ideas
Taking yourself on a solo date is one of the most underrated acts of self-love and personal growth. In a world that constantly encourages connection with others, it's powerful to carve out intentional time to connect with yourself. Think about it: when you go on a date with someone new, you’re present, curious, and eager to learn more about them. Why not bring that same energy inward? Dress up if you want to. Take yourself to your favorite café, a quiet museum, or even just a park bench. Turn off your phone—just like you would to give a date your full attention—and be fully present with you.
Bring a book if you like, or a journal. Ask yourself the deep questions you'd ask someone you're getting to know: What are your goals right now? What scares you? What makes you feel most alive? What do you need more of in your life? Let yourself answer honestly. You might be surprised by how much insight you gain when you stop to really listen to your own voice. The more you do this, the better you'll understand yourself—and the better you'll become at choosing relationships, environments, and habits that truly align with who you are.
Solo dates are also a great opportunity to check in on your personal growth. After uncovering what’s been buried under the surface, give yourself permission to take action. Maybe you’ve realized you want to start a new hobby, set boundaries in a relationship, or finally go after a dream you’ve shelved. Whatever it is, use what you learn on these dates to work on becoming the version of yourself you admire. It’s not about perfection—it’s about presence, growth, and radical self-respect.
So schedule that solo date. You deserve your own time, attention, and love. The relationship you have with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship in your life. Why not make it a great one?
Date Idea - Flower shopping and coffee.
“Stop and Smell the Roses”
There’s something magical about wandering through rows of fresh flowers, letting color, scent, and beauty guide your senses. On a recent solo date, I took myself flower shopping and followed it up with a slow coffee moment—and it turned out to be exactly what I didn’t know I needed. No rush, no distractions, just me, some blooms, and a warm cup of calm. I let myself choose whatever made me smile. I didn’t overthink it. I just listened to what felt good. That simple act of following joy felt like a soft rebellion against the hustle of everyday life.
After picking out a few fresh stems I walked through the city holding my flowers and coffee taking in all the colors. I walked with my thoughts like I was catching up with a dear friend. There was no pressure to be “productive.” I sipped, breathed, and let my mind wander. It felt grounding. Peaceful. And in its own quiet way, powerful.
That solo date reminded me how healing beauty and stillness can be. Flowers for my space, coffee for my soul, and presence for my heart. It was a reminder that I don’t have to wait for someone else to create these moments for me—I can gift them to myself anytime. And I plan to do it again.
Date Idea - A show at the local theater
“Home Alone” with Q & A with Macaulay Culkin
Last night, I took myself on a little solo date — just me, my purse, and a childhood classic on the big screen. And let me tell you… it was perfect.
I think we forget sometimes that life doesn’t stop just because we don’t have someone to go with us. You don’t need a plus-one to enjoy your own life. If anything, solo dates remind you that you are the plus-one. You are the experience. You are the vibe.
So I went. I got dressed, found my seat, and settled in for a nostalgic 35th-anniversary screening of a movie that shaped my childhood. Seeing it in a theater was so awesome because I never saw it in a theater as a child.
They let us submit questions ahead of time for the talk portion of the night, which I didn’t know until I got there — but honestly, it didn’t even matter because I didn't have any questions to ask, at least non appropriate ones. The movie started exactly at 7:30pm on the dot, the energy in the room was cozy and excited, and I was just… happy to be there.
By myself.
For myself.
With myself.
And here’s the thing: not once did I feel awkward, lonely, or “out of place.” I felt free. I felt grown. I felt like a woman who doesn’t wait for permission or company to enjoy her own life.
Solo dates are underrated. Everyone should take themselves out sometimes — to the movies, to dinner, to a museum, to a concert… wherever your spirit wants to go. You don’t need a partner, a friend, or a group chat confirmation. If there’s something you want to experience, go experience it.
Because your life doesn’t pause until someone joins you.
And honestly? Some of the best memories are made when it’s just you.
